OAD – Do you Love Yourself

How many of you get angry?

How many of you hate people!

How many of you get irritated with yourself?

How many of you love yourself?

 

Do You Really Love yourself?

By – Manoj Lekhi

 

I ask people in my anger workshop that Do you love yourself and they generally raise their hands… I ask them again this question Do you REALLY love your self ? And again they raise their hands…

Then we ask the next question If you really love someone, just think of a person whom you love the most, can be a child or mother or father or anyone, would you give them the poison? The first reaction What nonsense are you talking, obviously not.. Obviously not, we never give poison to someone we love, true or false, definitely true…

Then we ask the third question, ‘Why are we giving poison to ourselves?’ What do you mean – every time we complain against someone, we are putting poison in our system… every time we have grievance against someone, some situation, some event, we are putting poison inside… every time we have a fight with our mother or father or sister or brother or husband or wife or child or boss or colleague or friend or relative, whosoever we have a fight with, every fight, we put poison – little poison to maximum poison – irritation is small dose of poison, disturbance is higher dose, frustration is even higher dose, anger is the big dose of the poison, and revenge is directly like drinking the poison… The poison goes in the system and gradually comes in form of disease…

Disease means dis+ease... when we are not ease at our life, we form into disease starting with cold cough going straight up to diabetes, arthritis, cholesterol, heart problems and even cancer… cancer and all these are the accumulation of poison over many many years… we jokingly say,

40 years hold on poison of anger, it will lead to cancer,

40 months hold poison, it will lead to diabetes, arthritis, etc,

40 weeks, then you fall into accident – may be some fracture ,

40 days then some discomfort in the system like stomach problem or cold cough etc.,

40 hours then may be some gas problems,

40 minutes, you are well balanced person, yet its too long, you may get soar throat or something…

40 sec you hold anger, its a healthy anger and

4 sec then you are an enlightened person…  

so Gandhiji was angry when he thrown out of train, for 40 mins converted into 40 sec and then 4 sec and we all know its the history…

Once again, do you really love yourself and if you say yes then would you put the poison in your system, would we get angry, so if we get angry or we complain against some person, it can be against the government, politician, traffic, weather, small small things, food, the person works with us, the person to whom we are connected with, any complain is the dose of the poison to the body…

So what is the answer, the answer is very simple, lets work on ourselves, love ourselves, who will hurt anyone if we love them so we love ourselves then we dont hurt ourselves, we stop complaining and getting angry or revengeful…

So there are very simple tools or techniques are there, you can come and understand in the anger workshop, like few things eg.  Something like just take a band , any band, every time you complain, remove from one side to another side and count how many times you change your band, whenever you complain, change it, may be 10 times, 20 or 30 times, gradually when you do this, it will reduce your anger or frustration or disturbance or irritation level so these are simple things from a book I read…

So there are many many techniques and tools, try these, and have a wonderful and peaceful and happy and calm and great life…

Thank you very much !