LIFE POSITIVE OCTOBER 2012
Coming from a longstanding disciple of Rishi Prabhakar, the founder of Siddha Samadhi Yoga, Your Child Is Your Parent by Manoj Lekhi is brimming with simplicity that is at once wise and profound, yet very commonsensical.
Built on the basic premise that parenting is more about consciousness and less about being a biological parent, Lekhi sums it up by saying, “You can be a parent without really giving birth to a child”.
The fundamental core of parenting, he asserts, is about being aware, at each step, of what you want, and how to reach your goal.
Even planning a child involves careful and studied thinking about why you want to bring a soul into the world, and how best you can be an involved, compassionate and proactive guide to your child’s innate potential and personality. “You have to be clear about the kind of life you will give to that child,” he states.
More than the kind of lifestyle and facilities that you can afford, Lekhi is referring to the values, awareness, spiritual evolvement and involvement that you as a parent bring to your responsibilities as a parent.
For that, you have to assess your own strengths and shortcomings, and work on those willingly to be able to offer a meditative upbringing to your child, “What you want your child to ‘be’ in life, is more important that what he will ‘do’ or `have’,” he says. Lekhi manages to encapsulate spiritual wisdom, psychological tenets and practical guidelines in a way that is easy to understand, relate to, and most importantly, put into practice.
The book has dedicated chapters to some of the most common problems or ‘challenges’ that plague parents: self-esteem, anger management, memory development and left and right brain thinking.
A happy parent leads to a happy child. A parent who is reflective, calm and positive can, by his or her own example, mould and nurture these very qualities in the child. The child thus provides an opportunity for the parents themselves to look at their own life patterns, behavior and thinking and change these to cultivate their own growth, as well as that of their child. Thus parenting essentially is about creating a culture of positive change in the family unit, where each one, parent or child, is constantly learning and imbibing values, perceptions and behavior from each other. “Self-esteem is what the child thinks of himself. When we shout, hit, glare or cause fear, selfesteem slumps. Love, compassion and calmness increase the self-esteem of the child. So once again, you change, and your child will change.”
This book is to be absorbed and assimilated into your being. To see how beautifully and seamlessly its wisdom seeps into your life, as a parent and as a person.
– Sharmila Bhosale
LIFE POSITIVE (Oct 2012)