Seven steps for overcoming egos Holds on you
by Dr. Wayne Dyer
Stop being offended.
The behaviour of others is not a reason to be immobilized. That which offends you only weakens you. If you’re looking for occasions to be offended, you’ll find them at every turn. This is your ego at work convincing you that the world shouldn’t be the way it is.
Let go of your need to win.
Ego loves to divide us into winners and losers. The pursuit of winning is a surefire means to avoid conscious contact with intention. Why? Because ultimately, winning is impossible all of the time. Someone out there will be faster, luckier, younger, stronger and smarter-and back you’ll go to feeling worthless and insignificant.
You may enjoy competing and have fun in a world where winning is everything, but you don’t have to be in your thoughts.
Let go of needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing. That’s ego fears.
Let go of your need to be right.
Ego is the source of a lot of conflicts and dissension because it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong. When you’re hostile, you have disconnected from the power of intention. The creative spirit is kind, loving, and receptive and free of anger, resentment, or bitterness.
When you let go of the need to be right, you’re able to strengthen your connection to the power of intention. I’ve seen people willing to die rather then let go of being right. I’ve seen people and otherwise beautiful relationship by sticking to their need to be right.
Let go of your need to be superior.
True novelty is not about being better than someone else, it is about being better than you used to be. Stay focused on your growth, with a constant awareness that no one on this planet is any better than anyone else. We all emanate from the same creation life force. We are all equal in the eyes of god. When you project feelings of superiority, that’s what you get back, leading to resentments and ultimately hostile feelings.
Let go of your need to have more.
The mantra of the ego is more. Its never satisfied. No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your ego will insist that is it is not enough. Yet in reality, you have already arrived. Ironically, when you stop needing more, of what you desire to seem to arrive in your life.
Let go identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements.
God writes all the music, God sing all the songs, God builds all the building, God is the source of all your achievements. I can hear your ego loudly protesting. Nevertheless, stay tuned to this idea. All emanates from source! You and that source are one! You are not this body and its accomplishments. You are the observer.
Let go of your reputation.
Your reputation is not located in you. It reside in the mind of others. Therefore, you have no control over it at all. If you speak to 30 people, you will have 30 reputations. If you are overly concerned with how you are going to be perceived by everyone, then you have disconnected yourself from intention and allowed the opinions of others to guide you. This is your ego at work.