An Article By Manoj J Lekhi from the Book ‘Are you a Super Leader? ‘
Depression has become an everyday phenomenon. Every other person is struggling to rise above this reluctant feeling. This emotion has a huge impact on one’s health, relationships, happiness, professional life and personal well-being.
In order to understand depression let us comprehend the factors leading one into depression. Anger is one of the major elements that hampers one’s mental peace and leads one to the path of depression.
What is Anger?
Anger is any feeling that comes out of pain. This pain comes out of a subconscious situation may be because of some fear, some stress or some dark memory from beyond. It is an outcome of inner anxiety and pain – and the outburst of that pain is anger.
To vent this sentiment a person fi ghts, screams and shouts on other person and tries to release himself from the clutches of anger. Though he releases his anger, it leaves him on a low note. This is an anger trap. He might feel happy pushing his
emotion out but the happiness is temporary. This creates even more feeling of guilt inside the person’s mind. For instance a person who is angry may not feel good and nice after screaming. His self-esteem and self-image drops down to a very low vibration level. He is left only with self-talk, explaining and justifying himself.
For example, a boss shouts on his employees for not doing his work and the boss feels ‘not good’ about shouting and backs it up with self-justifi cation. This feeling grows inside and the results are worse. Gradually his guilt is released through more shouting and screaming on everyone near him. This is human behaviour, that even he can’t control and it results into pushing him in darker corners. The story repeats again and again. This refl ects as anger which is shown outside. One might feel good but this feeling is temporary. Deep down inside, this behaviour and emotional outburst also has a major impact on one’s mental well-being and may also physically manifest into diseases like Diabetes or Cancer.
What is Depression?
When your anger turns inwards it leads to depression. When you suppress your anger it is known as depression. A child is being scolded by his parents, but he is not able to react. The child starts absorbing the feeling inside him. Parents yell
at him again and again on every trivial mistake he makes. The child takes all of this and scoops down this feeling. The more he dwells on this negative emotion the more he is pushed into depression. Suppression of anger leads one into the world of depression, discomfort and disharmony.
The important aspect is how to get out of depression? There are various ways to do this. One needs to understand anger and identify elements which lead one into aggression. We need to understand why does one get angry? It may be due to some incident or due to some event that has happened in one’s past life or is happening in the present life. The body memorizes these emotions and reacts to it as per those
emotions towards a particular situation on an auto pilot mode. People and situations may change but the anger within remains the same. If people know how to pin you and where to pin you, it is obvious that your fuse will blow. The best example to suit this situation is a married couple, a husband and wife know exactly how to pin each other, at what intensity to pin each other, at what frequency to pin each other and unknowingly they keep doing it and repeating it again and again.
How do we reverse the anger and depression in return?
Identify the factors resulting into depression and make the person aware of it by applying consequences to it. For example, if a person gets angry next time, he will undergo a 24 hour ‘water-fast’. If he applies this rule and if he shouts and undergoes a water fast for next 24 hours then his anger subsides. If he does this fi ve to seven times in a space of one or two months he will definitely rise out of his habit of anger and depression associated with it. It is a pure science; earlier the body had memorized factors which led him to the aggressive behaviour but now by spending 24 hours without water, the body itself will give the message to remain calm and composed and refrain from getting angry.
Every time the anger arises the brain gives him two signals:
- A) Do you want to shout and undergo a water fast?
- B) Handle the situation calmly and continue eating your regular meals?
Naturally if body gives you two signals the brain will go with second choice of having food as one’s body is habituated to eating food and it does not want to be starved for 24 hours as it is not a regular routine. It also knows consciously that
anger is not healthy and will affect health and chooses peace and calmness. If one follows this pattern he will definitely win over his anger and depression.
Nothing is permanent, neither is the anger nor is the depression. It is only a habit formed unknowingly over a period of time. You simply have to put a consequence,
which the body memorizes and acts as a stern reminder for you. Practice this method proactively on yourself and you will definitely rise above anger and depression.