By Louise Hay
CHAPTER 6 – Extract from the Book ‘You can Heal Your Life’.
Awareness is the first step in healing or changing
When we have some pattern buried deeply within us, we must become aware of it in order to heal the condition. Perhaps we begin to mention the condition, to complaint about it or to see it in other people. It raises to the surface of our attention in some way, and we begin to relate to it. We often attract a teacher, a friend, a class or workshop, or a book to ourselves that begin to awaken new ways to approach the dissolving of the problem.
My awaking began with a chance remark of a friend who had been told about a meeting. My friend did not go, but something within me responded, and I went. That little meeting was the first step on my pathway of unfoldment. I did not recognize the significance of it until something later.
Often, our reaction to this first stage is to think the approach is silly, or that is does not make sense. Perhaps it seems too easy, or unacceptable to our thinking. We don’t want to do it. Our resistance comes up very strong. We may even feel angry about the thought of doing it.
Such a reaction is very good, if we can understand that it is the first step in our healing process.
I tell people that any reaction they feel is there to show them they are already in the process of healing even though the total healing is not yet completed. The truth is that the process begins the moment we begin to think about making a change.
Impatience is only another form of resistance. It is resistance to learning and to changing. When we demand that it be done right now, completed at once, then we don’t give ourselves time to learn the lesson involved with the problem we have created.
If you want to move to another room, you have to get up and move step in that direction. Just sitting in your chair and demanding that you be in the other room will not work. It is the same thing. We all want our problem to be over with, but we don’t want to do the small things that will add up to the solution.
Now is the time to acknowledge our responsibility in having created the situation or condition. I am not talking about having guilt, nor about being a bad person for being where you are. I am saying to acknowledge the power within you that transform our every thought into experience. In the past we unknowingly used this power to create things we did not want to experience. We were not aware of what we were doing. Now, by acknowledging our responsibility, we become aware and learn to use this power consciously in positive ways for our benefit.
Often when I suggest a solution to the client a new way to approach a matter or forgiving the person involved I will see the jaw begin to clench just out, and arms cross tightly over the chest. Maybe even fists will form. Resistance is coming to the force, and I know we have hit upon exactly what needs to be done.
We all have lessons to learn. The things that are so difficult for us are only the lessons we have chosen for ourselves. If things are easy for us, then they are not lessons, but are things we already know.