Excerpts from the book ‘A Complaint Free World’ by Will Bowen

 

Man invented language to satisfy his deep need to complain.

_LILY TOMLIN

One of the question I’m often asked is “Can I never complain. . . .Ever!?”

To which I answer, “Of course you can complain.” I say this for 2 reasons:

 

  1. I’m not out to tell you or anyone else what to do. If I were, I’d be trying to change you,

and that means I’m focusing on something about you I don’t like. I’d be expressing

discontent about you and, by interference, complaining. So you can do whatever you

want. It’s your choice.

 

  1. Sometimes it makes sense to complain.

Now, before you feel you’ve found your loophole in number 2 above, consider that word

“sometimes” and remember that I and many, many people have gone three consecutive

weeks _ that’s 21 days, or 504 hours in a row _ without complaining at all. No

complains, zero zip! When it comes to complaining, “sometimes” means “not very often

at all.” Complaining should happen infrequently; criticism and gossip, never. If we are

honest with ourselves, life events that lead us to legitimately complain (express grief,

pain, or discontent) are exceedingly rare. Most of the complaining we do is just a lot of

“ear pollution” detrimental to our happiness and well-being.

 

Check yourself. When you complain (express grief, pain or discontent), is the cause

severe? Are you complaining frequently? Has it been a month or more since you

complained? If you’re complaining more than once in a month, you might just be giving

in to habitual griping, which doesn’t serve you. You’re an “ouch” looking for a hurt.

Change what you’re saying. Stop complaining. Change your words, change your

thoughts, and you will change your life. When Jesus said, “seek and ye shall find,” it

was a statement of universal principle. What you seek, you will find. When you

complain, you are using the incredible power of your mind to seek things that you say

you don’t want but nonetheless draw them to you. Then you complain about these new

things and attract more of what you don’t want. You get caught in the “complaint loop”

_a self-fulfilling prophecy of complaint: manifestation, complaint: manifestation,

complaint: manifestation, and on and on it goes.

 

The Universe, or God, or spirit, or whatever you choose to call it, is benign (good), but it

is also indifferent (it doesn’t care). The Universe doesn’t care if you use the power of

your thoughts as indicated by your words to call to yourself love, health, happiness,

abundance, and peace, or if you attract yourself pain, suffering, misery, loneliness, and

poverty. Our thoughts create our world, our words indicate our thoughts. When we

control our words by eradicating complaining, we create our lives with intension and

attract what we desire.