Excerpts from the book ‘A Complaint Free World’ by Will Bowen


Of all the self–fulfilling prophecies in our

Culture, the assumption that aging means decline

And poor health is probably the deadliest.




By complaining and playing the “fat card,” I had gotten sympathy and approval, and I

had a justifiable reason for not taking to the girls. My complaining had benefited me.

You may have done something similar at some point in your life. We complain to get

sympathy, attention, and to avoid stepping up to something we’re afraid of doing. When

I was a kid and had symptoms of the flu or other illness, I’d play it up to stay home from

school and watch TV. The odd thing was, I’d often find myself getting sicker after

complaining about how I felt.


You’ve probably heard the term “psychosomatic illness.” A psychosomatic illness is

caused by the mental processes of the sufferer rather than physiological causes.

However, doctors estimate that nearly two-thirds of their time is spent treating patients

whose illness have psychological origins.


Have you ever noticed that the people who complain about their health invariably have

more to complain about?


“When I was diagnosed, I knew it was going to be tough and that I could go through

It, cursing God, science, and everyone else. Or I could focus on the good things in my

life. So I decided to give myself one unhappy day each month to complain. I randomly

picked the fifteenth. Whenever anything happens that I might want to complain about, I

tell myself that I have to wait until the fifteenth.” “Does that work?” I asked. “Pretty well,”

he said. “But don’t u get really down on the fifteenth of each month?” I asked. “No,” he

replied. “By the time fifteenth gets here, I’ve forgotten what it was I was going to

complain about.”